First, let's understand what Protection is. Protection means to take steps to help keep us safe or lower the risk of harm. But, as we all know, when we take steps to protect ourselves, it doesn't mean that will stop or prevent harm from coming our way. Still, it is important to put protective measures in place, especially with dangerous behaviors such as bullying and cyber bullying. Because cyber bullying is so rampant and it is very often an extension of traditional bullying behaviors, I am going to give you 3 Keys for Protection from cyber bullying.
1. First Key - Get yourself and your family on a Family Online Safety Contract (Family Online
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2. Second Key - Know why you are giving your children a piece of technology or giving them permission to utilize it! Caving in to peer pressure is not a reason.Technology should be age appropriate and adults must take the time to instruct them on the usage of each device.
3. Third Key - Get to know your children's Net Neighborhood! Again, this is mandatory! Just as parents would want to know where, when, and with whom their child is spending time with in the real world, responsible parents will also want to know this about the Net Neighborhood. Sit down with them and have them show you where they 'hang out' in the Net World. This is an amazing communication tool and a great way to protect them from harm.
There are other Protective steps on my website Holli Kenley and in cyber bullying no more: Parenting A High Tech Generation.
Let's move on to Prevention. What does it mean? Prevention means to stop the harm or injury from coming our way and/or to keep the harm or injury from getting worse. In order to do this, we must address the cause. Although prevention is a little more tricky - especially with cyber bullying - it can be done. In the previous blog, we learned that bullying and cyber bullying are aggressive behaviors - for the most part "learned behaviors". There are two very important concepts that we must understand in addressing prevention.
- Cyber bullying is a behavioral symptom or manifestation of an underlying source - a lack of empathy for another individual. Very simply, we cannot feel compassion for another person and simultaneously disrespect, dehumanize, and disregard the rights and being of another.
- With the nature of cyber space and our ever-increasing dependence on communicating electronically (not face to face), we are more disconnected from the real world, we are freed up to behave in ways we would not normally do, and our behaviors are reinforced or conditioned by the technology itself and the features of cyber space. (More information on this in cyber bullying no more).
And, I will be discussing Taking The Cyber Balance Challenge in more detail on W4CY Radio Wed. October 9, 2013 - Holli Kenley - Keys For Recovery ! Join me at 12 pm ET!! If you missed it, take a listen now....
Are You Ready To Take The Cyber Balance Challenge?
Homework: Take The Cyber Balance Challenge - take your poll and regroup! And, get your family on a Family Online Safety Contract! Start today!
If you missed last week's show, take a listen Anti-Bullying Month - Awareness & Intervention!